My dad thinks that you can be called a friend if you are there for each other. It doesn't matter how long you don't see each other, 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, 1year, 5 years, 10 years, just as long as you're willing to help out, you're a friend. So here is the scenario. We were running together and I'm like "Dad, how come you don't hang out with people your age a lot? You just stay home and stare at your computer. The only person you're ever with is me. How come you don't go out and make friends or hang out with your friends?" He responds by saying, "I have a lot of friends. I don't need to hang out in order to have friends. A true friend is a person that can help you when you are in a need of help and they are willing to help you. So what if you guys have some lunch together and talk about pointless things. When you call them out for help and they don't help, can you still consider them a friend? They just want to use you but when you use them, they don't help at all. A true friend is a person that generously helps you when you need them. (*bad grammar, i know*)." Do you agree with that? I totally agree with it. I mean, that truly is who friends are. They help you when you need help, but looking at my dad. I have to say he is a hypocrite. This is where my argument comes in.
That is what my dad says, but when I look at him, I ask myself [to him], "So you only consider people who help you friends. Well, are you a good friend yourself? Do you go out and help people like a "friend" should? (theanswerisno) If you don't do it, why should other people help you? You're always on your computer. What good does that do? You're not out there expressing yourself; how do people help you?" (Do you see what I'm trying to say?) When I look at friendship, I try to be a person who indeed tries to help you. If you need someone to talk to, I will listen and try to give out my advice [if possible]. If you need an opinion or a word of encouragement, I'll do my best to try to make you more cheerful. Yes, I believe that a friend is a person who helps other people in need. But you can't just depend on others to help you; you have to start with yourself. I, myself, try to be a good friend. I'm willing to help others however possible. If you want me to do something for you, I will not rest until I accomplish the task. If you need something that I have, I'll lend/give/letyouborrow it. I believe that if you want friends, you have to be a good "friend" yourself. Don't count on others to please you. Don't depend on other people to let you be happy because you are the only person that can create your own happiness.
Also, I disagree with my dad on one thing. He says that if the other person does not help you, that person is not your friend. I totally disagree with that. If that person doesn't help you, still, be his/her friend. I, personally, don't believe in "enemies." I wish that everyone can have a healthy relationship. I think that even thought that person may not help you, if you just return a little favor, that person will see a light and your kindness to him/her, and eventually, may return the favor. Ok, sure, I don't look like a person that helps out or be a true friend, but really, I am, or at least I try. I may not have accomplished my goal in being a true friend though. There is so much more out there. There are so many people who need help, and I want to give them my best by helping them through their misery and trying to find their happiness.
Oh and let me just say, I have feelings. When a "friend" says something hurtful or acts ignorant toward me, my feelings will be injured and sometimes, I may feel a little crack in my heart (yes, i have a heart, omg...). So to cover up that pain, I might say something hurtful in return but honestly, I don't feel that way. I forget what it's called. Self-conscience? Denial? UGH! i don't remember. But anyway, I have this mindset where I want to insult you back, but I restrain it. I try to be positive about it but you know that sometimes words come out of your mouth before you can stop it. So yeah. I'm sorry if that ever happened to somebody I know and did to.
Oh and they're a some people that I don't want to be friends with, but maybe that will be another post someday.
So, what's a friend to you?